Unapproachable people

[Liu]

Ever know anyone at work or outside of work that you found unapproachable and you just wanted to stay away from?

[MooGoo]

that is the main reason I post to these threads.

[julieperl]

I think 90% of someone's approachablity is all in the confidence of the approcher. Make sense? If I'm terrified of the company president, Instead of admitting I'm intimidated, I say he's unapprochable.

I hear this all the time about the senior VP of our company that SHE is unapproachable. The people who say it most- are the same folks who are terrified of her. I have no issue approaching her and chatting with her. She's nice and smarter than almost any other person I have worked for. she's a great teacher.

I also hear that I'm unapproachable, but in talking with the people who say that- it's because I decide their fate (hire/fire). I find that a bit odd... it's not like I run through the office like donald trump... YOU'RE FIRED! If I end up firing someone... unless they're dumb as a bag of hammers, they know it's coming.

[Liu]

I think 90% of someone's approachablity is all in the confidence of the approcher. Make sense? If I'm terrified of the company president, Instead of admitting I'm intimidated, I say he's unapprochable.

I hear this all the time about the senior VP of our company that SHE is unapproachable. The people who say it most- are the same folks who are terrified of her. I have no issue approaching her and chatting with her. She's nice and smarter than almost any other person I have worked for. she's a great teacher.

I also hear that I'm unapproachable, but in talking with the people who say that- it's because I decide their fate (hire/fire). I find that a bit odd... it's not like I run through the office like donald trump... YOU'RE FIRED! If I end up firing someone... unless they're dumb as a bag of hammers, they know it's coming.

Haven't you ever come across some that just give off an aura of "stay away?"

[julieperl]

Haven't you ever come across some that just give off an aura of "stay away?"

In the work place- only once but I made an effort to talk to him anyway. He is a rock guy- always wearing dark clothes, more tats than Kat Von Dee, at the time, I think he was sporting a purple mohawk. I figured I could start a conversation about music and go from there.... It worked. Now, he's one of my few "work friends" that I would consider socialzing with outside of the office.

[Liu]

I've seen two types:

This person was passed over for a promotion and went into hibernation mode, didn't want to be bothered or approached.

This other person was unsure of himself and decided to stay under the radar by avoiding as much contact with others as possible.

Both were very obvious. Haven't encountered any rock star types yet.

[lanaloo]

trust your instincts.

if somebody gives off a 'stay away' vibe, it's probably because your intuition is suggesting to you they're not to be trusted.

[julieperl]

trust your instincts.

if somebody gives off a 'stay away' vibe, it's probably because your intuition is suggesting to you they're not to be trusted.

I don't know if that's entirely accurate. In my career... the least trustworthy people were the ones smiling to your face and then shoving daggers into your back as soon as you turned away.

[Bartman]

Ever know anyone at work or outside of work that you found unapproachable and you just wanted to stay away from?

Pretty much Everyone!

Guess I'm just not a "People Person".

[com6063]

I don't know if that's entirely accurate. In my career... the least trustworthy people were the ones smiling to your face and then shoving daggers into your back as soon as you turned away.

That was the "toxic" environment of my last job. People would tell you "great job" then run off to bad mouth you to someone else. Very horrible way to treat people. Of course, it was also rampant among the managers too.

I treat everyone the same, with kindness and directness.

[Jaz]

I treat them like furniture.

[wadeless28]

Its funny. When I am at work (telecommunications engineer by day) I am very no nonsense type of guy. I am involved with the design of communications rooms and infrastructure for the "G". It seems T-Comm is always an after thought and "not really important". I am in constant battle with facilities folks for money and space to meet our customers requirements, and it seems I hurt a lot of feelings a lot of times. And I find that people dont like to approach me at work because of this.

I will say I am not at work to make friends. But the people I work with for some reason think I am very unapproachable. LMAO. So when happy hour comes around and they see me in an enviroment outside of work, they are shocked to see how jovial and approachable I am. I then see they have a whole new attitude toward me. I tell them I have a big bark because of wanting to do things right all the time. I have no bite.

Oh well... Sometimes I just have to tell me its only a paycheck.

[Bloomin Onion]

Ever know anyone at work or outside of work that you found unapproachable and you just wanted to stay away from?

90% of the people in New Jersey and Long Island or who moved from there.

[THUBTAN RINCHEN]

Ever know anyone at work or outside of work that you found unapproachable and you just wanted to stay away from?

i very much enjoy breaking open the shell around them
.. i done it many times in past

but i guess the thing to ask "in what way are they unapproachable?"

they could be very friendly but let know one know what they feel.

[Aga]

I try to make my self unapproachable... it seems I'm pertty darn good at that!