Judge orders Deadbeat Dad with 9 kids to stop having children

[bmore_ken]

I am sure I can find evidence that kids do better in a home with live in married parents. Again you are deflecting. Why don't you want to give me a straight answer.

Do you believe it is preferable or not? Yes or no?

Hmm let me follow the thread sequence

Not being married has nothing to do with providing for your children. My 2 college graduate sons can attest to that fact

Every rule has its exceptions.

Exceptions tend to be so because they don't get the press

Maybe so but don't you think it is preferable for parents to be married and living in the same place?

So I stated that being married has nothing to do with providing for your children and you bring up what's preferable which had nothing to do with my statement. Talk about deflecting

[kudzu]

Genetics?

Oh yeah, he said it.

Just more politely this time...

[Smokey 1]

Hmm let me follow the thread sequence









So I stated that being married has nothing to do with providing for your children and you bring up what's preferable which had nothing to do with my statement. Talk about deflecting

My question was absolutely pertinent to your statement and wasn't any deflection at all. Maybe you need to look up what deflection means. There is tons of evidence that marriage does make it better for the children but you don't want to admit what you know is the truth because you did it differently. Whether you think my question was relevant or not there was no good reason for you not to answer. Your dilemma was that if you answered honestly you would have to admit that you didn't do it the best way you could have and perhaps a "culture" that doesn't value the benefits of marriage is sick. You should be commended on raising two successful kids but your case is the exception to the rule and there are probably some things that could have been better for them if they grew up with married parents.

[songfourone]

Hmm let me follow the thread sequence









So I stated that being married has nothing to do with providing for your children and you bring up what's preferable which had nothing to do with my statement. Talk about deflecting

My children, now in their late 20's often commented about how some of their friends would have faired better if their parents had separated earlier than what they did.

Marriage has nothing to do with providing for your children.

[Smokey 1]

Marriage has nothing to do with providing for your children.

Not as long as both parents are living with the children, are committed to each other and are not fighting all the time. It is especially important for boys to have a live in father.

[songfourone]

Not as long as both parents are living with the children and are committed to each other. It is especially important for boys to have a live in father.

You do realize that close to 60% of marriages fail?

[Smokey 1]

You do realize that close to 60% of marriages fail?

Yeah and that's a shame especially if there are children involved.

[octoburn]

My children, now in their late 20's often commented about how some of their friends would have faired better if their parents had separated earlier than what they did.

Marriage has nothing to do with providing for your children.

Children learn from their parents, and knowing that their parents are in a loveless, unhappy and unwanted marriage teaches them a distorted lesson about what marriage is versus what it should be.

Living a lie for the children does them no favors either.

[Smokey 1]

My children, now in their late 20's often commented about how some of their friends would have faired better if their parents had separated earlier than what they did.

Marriage has nothing to do with providing for your children.

http://www.divorcesource.com/ds/chil...dren-239.shtml

http://www.dealwithdivorce.com/effec...e-children/30/

http://www.ehow.com/info_8005089_eff...-children.html

http://www.singleparentcenter.net/ef...parenting.html

I hear a lot rationalizing on this thread from people who don't want to believe that divorce or single parenting is not the ideal circumstance to raise children. Apparently they don't want to feel guilty for decisions they made putting themselves ahead of the interests of their children.