Thank you.

[Rael]

Nota, I am so sorry. I wish there was something to say that would make things even a little bit better but there isn't. It is obvious to anyone who has talked with you that you are a good family man and loved her very much. May God be with you and your daughter.

[Bowie-Bruce]

Nota, I'm so sorry to hear of this terrible news.

Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts.

[NOTAGUNNUT]

Thanks all. It was good to get back to work today just so I wouldn't sit here staring at the walls for most of another day. Coming home to an empty house is tough though.

Bowie... you've been in my thoughts and prayers too. sorry to learn of your loss.

[demopublican]

Some of the folks here know that I've been through the worst time of my life over the last couple of weeks in all my 50+ years.
A few weeks ago my wife came home from work on Friday, said she wasn't feeling well, and went to bed. She spent the whole weekend in bed, so I made her go to a doctor on Monday. She went to St. Joseph's Hospital, they admitted her, and started doing tests. They didn't tell me until 2 days later that she had advanced breast cancer that had spread to her kidneys, liver, and bones. The prognosis was that she had about two weeks, maybe more becaude due to her condition there was no treatment option. Friday we moved her from the Hospital to a Hospice, and she passed away on Staurday morning 12-8.
There was a memorial service at our Church on 12-12-12, and some of the folks who post here came to the service, and sent cards from far away. I can't say how much that meant to me.

Going through papers, bills, statements and such today I found a bill from a medical lab for some sort of unspecified tests she had done about 18 months ago. Her mom died of cancer, and her dad died of cancer. she saw what they went through with the radiation, and chemo-therapy, and it appears she opted out of all of that misery in favor of keeping a higher quality of the time she had left. She kept it totally to herself, and totally together for all that time, working her job, doing housework, and cooking dinner right up to the night before she went to the hospital so as not to worry, or burden those who love her. That makes it harder now because we all wonder what might have been.

Now I'm trying to go forward about a minute at a time, trying to figure out where I go from here. As for those who offerred a card, a letter, a shoulder to lean on, or one to cry on.... thanks so much.

I did not know and I am very sorry to hear. My deepest sympathies.

[BlandFood]

Horrible news, I'm truly sorry to have read it. I'm sure you have many good memories to reflect back on.

[regularguy]

I'm so sorry to read about your loss. It sounds as if your wife was a very strong person, and she knew exactly how she wanted to handle this awful situation. Please accept my condolences.

[demopublican]

Merry Christmas Nota. I am sure that this is a tough Christmas for everyone in your family.
I hope that there is some peace in the season for all of you.

[Angeleyes]

Nota....wishing you and your daughter the best. Call if you need us.

[NOTAGUNNUT]

Thanks everyone. I'll be spending the day with my daughter, and later, the family. It will be a somber, meloncholy Christmas for me. I hope all of you have a Christmas like so many of those I remember over the last 29 years since I first met MJ, and definitely hug someone you love today.

[Eastside Terp]

Merry Christmas Nota. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

[shutout]

Merry Christmas NOTA. I continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[NOTAGUNNUT]

Thanks. Tough, lonely, but nice day with family.

Daughter wrote me a beautiful note inside a card she gave me today. I've kept her cards in a drawer since I got the first one, but this one is really something special.

I hope you all had the kind of Christmas like the many I've had over the last 29 years.

[Scaggsville]

My condolences, Nota. Sounds like your family is giving you lots of love and support. I hope each passing day gives you more strength. God bless.

[OldBay]

Nota, I just saw this sad news. Please accept my deepest condolences. And also thank you for posting and sharing how MJ lived with such dignity on her own terms. May your memories of how she lived bring you some solace. Those of us who read your words here will not forget.

[doglover]

Nota, MJ lives on in your beautiful daughter. What a blessing she is.

Glad you had a nice holiday shared with loved ones. We wish you all the best in the New Year and look forwards to seeing you on the 5th.

[NOTAGUNNUT]

Thanks Scaggsville, and Oldbay.

DL, I picked up my Telecaster yesterday and played it for the first time in a month. See ya on the 5th, for sure.

As for my daughter, on Christmas day my dad said to me "do have any idea how beautiful your daughter is?"
She is quite something. Pretty, smart, and self motivated, and driven to excel.

[sigmalady]

Nota, glad you were able to enjoy your Christmas. Your daughter sounds like a wonderful young woman.

[aboutwell]

Just read this sad news, Nota... I wish I had known... may the force be with you...

[Cameron]

Your love and pride shone through every word you wrote about your wife and daughter and I'm so sorry to learn this shocking news.

Please accept my condolences, Nota.

[SemiAuto]

Better late than never but sorry to hear of this.